I’M DEEP. I’M SHALLOW

AND I DON’T FIT INTO ONE OF THOSE PRETTY BOXES.

Candace Ourisman is one of the most interesting women at any tableβ€”she’s that girl whose coat you noticed before she sat down and whose line about her divorce made the whole table lose it. Fluent in couture and accustomed to chaos, Candace has embraced every chapter of her story, shaping the intuitive style she’s carefully honed and curated into a narrative worth sharing.

All the fun. All the fancy.


Seriously, you’re going to want to be in on this.

Style-forward curator & champion of new chapters. My take on fashion, reinvention, city guides & hosting with personality. Emotionally available to beauty, art & just about everything else. Also: big-time over-tipper.

THE LATEST ON SUBSTACK

  • First Things First

    Here is the short version of what this is. Secretly Fancy is the thing I have been building, quietly and then less quietly, since 2009. The name came from a joke with college friends. A word we used for anything that was better than it looked, cooler than it let on. It stuck because it was true about a lot of things, including, occasionally, me. This is a newsletter about taste without the gatekeeping. I am serious about style, and I have a loose grip on almost everything else, and I have come to think that is the only honest way to be serious about anything.

  • Join Me as I Chaotically Shop My Way Through Aspen

    I firmly believe shopping is significantly more successful when preceded by a cold Diet Coke, an adult beverage, and a friend with taste. Before we started the expedition, my dear friend (and Aspen local) Stephanie and I camped out at Woody Creek Tavern and spent the better part of an hour doing what I can only describe as tactical shopping strategy. I also housed an entire chicken enchilada order. They are the best that I’ve ever experienced.

  • The Aspen Guide you want & need. Summer edition.

    I snuck away to Aspen a few weeks ago for the vibes, and the vibes delivered. Aspen is not a mountain town in summer the way you picture a mountain town in summer to be. It’s authentic Wild West energy with a major fashion crowd attached. The town feels genuinely authentic, and it truly has maintained its charm amidst the big, flashy brands that rotate in and out of town. I love the idea of taking a 30-mile bike ride in the morning and ransacking Prada in the afternoon. The dichotomy of it all truly speaks to me. There’s also something to be said for that fresh mountain air and high altitudeβ€”it just feels liberating and I haven’t stopped thinking about it since I left.

  • The Hot Mom’s Guide to London

    London was a whirlwind and a feast for the senses. It’s a city that feels supersized for kids. The buildings are bigger, the toy departments are unhinged, the shopping is on steroids, and somehow everyone is extremely put together by 9am. I came home with a full camera roll, a dress my daughter picked out, and a son who now rates every car he enters against an Uber Black. Which, speaking of, the Uber Black sedans in London are the most over-the-top I have ever sat in. My kids treated every ride like a limo on prom night. I am not saying plan your trip around them, but I am saying my children absolutely would.

A festive table featuring snacks such as potato chips and bowls of dips with green, white, and dark sauces. In the background, seafood and shellfish are displayed on ice, along with colorful decorative candles and flowers.

HOSTING ERA

Black hair woman wearing a white dress with a high neck and an open slit in the front.

Let’s Talk Tables

Guides, edits and ideas for the gatherings that keep people talking.

A bar of yellow soap labeled 'Citron,' with French text indicating it was made in Marseille.
A pink translucent jar and lid of Diptyque Paris scented candle with the Diptyque logo embossed on the lid, featuring a tree and boat design.
Two glass candle holders with long stems and wide, textured bowls, set on decorative bases.
Two gold rings with green accents on a white background.
Gold chandelier earrings with diamond accents on a light green background.
Assorted jewelry, including earrings, necklaces, and rings, displayed on a wooden tray with sandy accents and seashells, against a beach-inspired background.

FANCY THAT

Things Worth Wanting

Good taste. No gatekeeping. Fashion expertise without ego and humor in every single room.

SHALL WE?

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